Why can people blame a victim's stupid actions for some crimes like theft or fraud, but it is not okay to do that for rape?
I think culture of super-sensitivity and never blaming the victim, society as a whole generally avoids the conversation of how to prevent rape in the first place. Everyone focuses on a gadget you need or some sort of physical self-defense while completely ignoring that the best way to prevent a problem comes before physical fighting actually takes place. I feel like not being politically correct and just saying it: If you are stupid, you can get raped. No, it is not your fault and not every assault can be prevented, but not acting like a fucktard can reduce the odds at least.
Alcohol is a common factor in college rapes. Okay, let us go from there. Drinking to the point of unconsciousness is a bad idea. If a friend were to have a wallet stolen while shitfaced, everyone I know would probably make fun of said person and ask them why the hell they drank so much. If said friend were to get raped, we would tell that person that of course there was nothing she could do. Well, said person could have avoided getting plastered for one.
I was raped because I was at a place alone my mother told me to never be alone at. Multiple times. That is stupid. It wasn't my fault, but it doesn't change the fact that I was breaking many common-sense rules that day. It is a bit why I am a huge fan of non-combat self-defense as a prevention. A gun, a taser, or that pussy-footed shit black-belt mills are teaching would not have helped me. Running when I felt a first sign of trouble instead of ignoring my instincts, being more aware of my surroundings, and not going into isolated areas where crimes have been known to happen.
The majority of crime prevention takes place before you are in danger of a crime. Why is it that when organizations release information on how to avoid being at risk for rape do the majority of people cry foul and claim victim blaming? The tips are not terrible; it is much better than having to physically stop someone from hurting you because you are most likely going to be hurt anyways. Violence is horrible and nasty. It hurts more than people think. Just someone throwing you against against something hard enough to knock your breath out or simply gripping your arms is more incapacitating and painful than what you would think.
Physically defending yourself is many times harder (and traumatizing even if you make it out okay) than taking steps to prevent from having to do it in the first place. So why are people knocking down those that try to give prevention tips?